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Chris, Wendy
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A 40 year-old United Airlines mechanic, Christopher Stoeckler made
the drive on Mondays from his home in rural Fort Atkinson, Wisconsin to corporate
headquarters in Chicago. From there, he flew wherever his mechanical skills were needed to
keep the fleet safely on time. On weekends he cocooned with Wendy, his wife of close to 17
years, and their beautiful nine year-old daughter.
Fort Atkinson is a small farming community nestled in picturesque
rolling hills, and the Stoecklers love life there. Wendy works for one of the village
governments. Their best friends run a 900-head dairy operation dedicated solely to the
production of some very fine Wisconsin cheese. Of course, winter in Wisconsin can be a
little harsh, if the word "harsh" can adequately describe 60 degrees below with
the wind chill. But summer and fall can be beautiful there, and the Stoecklers also got
away for vacations to places like Hawaii.
Chris kept fit and trim through grueling motocross competitions. For
those unfamiliar with this sport, motocross basically involves a pack of dirt bikes going
as fast as they can around a dirt track with limited space and "jumps" which
require the willingness to hurtle your machine (and yourself) high into the air to a
landing area on a berm some distance away. You might think that a guy nicknamed
"Gopher" would have suffered at least a broken bone or two, but through the
years Chris suffered only some minor bumps and bruises while bringing home close to 40
trophies, the most recent taken in 1998.
The Stoecklers had a quintessential American life,
and it was very, very good, until the nightmare began over two years ago, in the winter of
1999.
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Catching air,
1980 |
EARLY WARNINGS
Chris presented to his primary physician with severe pain in the
area of his rectum. He was diagnosed with an enlarged prostate and prostatitis. His
primary physician proceeded to examine him internally, felt an abnormality in the area of
the liver and ordered CT scans. A CT scan of the abdomen detected the presence of fluid in
the abdominal cavity. A CT scan of the thorax detected fluids in the pleural space around
the right lung.
Chris was referred to a hepatologist at Froedert Lutheran Hospital
in Milwaukee for further examination of the liver. Further CT scans and blood work did not
reveal the source of the effusions. Chris was referred to a pulmonologist, who took more
CT scans, chest films and blood tests. Again, the results from the tests gave no clear
indicator of the problem. Two weeks later, Chris returned to the same pulmonologist, who
took more chest films. The pulmonologist stated that the new films failed to show any
fluid and advised Chris to return if he felt unwell. Over the next two years, Chris
continued to suffer occasional problems with his prostate.
In October 2001, Chris
developed a "terrible-sounding" cough but had no cold or flu. He decided to
start with a new primary physician. This physician took a chest film, which showed the
presence of fluid around the right lung. Chris returned to his pulmonologist, who ordered
further CT scans, chest films and blood work. Around December 7, his pulmonologist
performed a thoracentesis at Froedert Lutheran. The pain was so severe that Chris passed
out twice during the procedure. Cytological tests upon fluid removed via the thoracentesis
proved negative for malignancy. A needle biopsy performed a week later removed tissue
which also showed no abnormalities.
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Chris
Stoeckler, 1998 |
THE AWFUL TRUTH
On December 17, with no results and no solution in sight,
Chris underwent video-assisted thoracoscopy with biopsy. The surgeon advised that he could
see a profusion of white, "blister-like" cells around the right lung and
harvested tissue samples for pathological testing. Chris remained in the hospital for
three days with a drainage tube attached. The biopsied tissue was forwarded to the Mayo
Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, for a second opinion.
On December 31, 2001, at five in the afternoon, the
Stoecklers learned that the diagnosis was malignant mesothelioma. The pulmonologist said
that Chris had possibly less than one year to live. He further explained that he could run
another CT scan of the abdominal cavity to see if there were fluids there, and if there
were, a laparoscopy could be performed for diagnostic purposes. He suggested that if these
diagnostic tests revealed the presence of tumor activity in the abdomen, there would be no
treatment options in Wisconsin and that the Stoecklers should take a vacation to Europe to
enjoy the time they had left. If, on the other hand, the tumor had not metastasized to the
abdominal cavity, he would recommend consultation with Dr. David Sugarbaker at Brigham
& Womens Hospital in Boston, Massachusetts.
HOPES DASHED, REBUILT
The Stoecklers anxiously awaited the results of the
laparoscopy, which were due January 11, 2002. The results of the laparoscopy with biopsy
arrived that day, confirming that the tumor had, indeed, spread to the peritoneum.
Christopher Stoeckler had a tumor in both his pleural and abdominal cavities. His
prognosis was poor.
Wendy and Chris were frantic. Months ago, her husband had
been facing nagging aches; now, he was facing a life-ending prognosis. Wendy spoke with
Dr. Harvey Pass, who, considering Chris situation,
recommended that they speak with Dr. Hedy Kindler at the
University of Chicago. Additionally, the oncologist they already had recommended they
speak with Dr. Nicholas Vogelzang, also at the
University of Chicago.
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Stoeckler family
vacation in Hawaii, 2001 |
Shortly thereafter, Chris and Wendy
consulted with Dr. Kindler, and Chris entered a clinical trial utilizing chemotherapy on
February 14. The clinical trial is a double
blind, placebo-controlled, randomized Phase II Trial of Gemcitabine and Cisplatin with or
without the VEGF Inhibitor Bevacizumab (NSC#704865)
in patients with malignant mesothelioma.
He
underwent a full round of treatment and proceeded directly into a second round of his
chemotherapy regimen. He was hospitalized at the end of February for two days due to
severe constipation, probably caused by his medicaion and chemotherapy. By the middle of
March, he could not function, and he was enduring a migraine headache that had persisted
since his initial treatment. Additionally, he was coughing up blood. After a CT scan and a
consultation with Dr. Kindler, Chris and Wendy decided to cease chemotherapy. The
Stoecklers had mixed emotions: while the CT scan revealed that the chemotherapy had not
shrunk the tumor, the tumor had not grown, either. Dr. Kindler and Chris decided it
was best to refrain from treatment for a month to allow his body to recuperate from the
taxing therapy. She suggested a gentler treatment for the tumor when his body was once
again able to handle stress of that kind.
The Stoecklers returned to Dr.
Kindler in late April. She suggested that Chris take another five weeks off from the
therapy and scheduled him for a CT scan for June 6. She also scheduled a follow-up visit
for June 13, stating that at that time, they should decide how best to combat Chris
resilient tumor.
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Taylor helping Chris
with the dishes |
Wendy worries about the future. She and Chris have received
support from friends and even from people with whom they are merely acquainted. Gestures
of kindness are a double-edged sword as they show support, but at the same time serve as a
searing reminder of something Chris and Wendy have struggled to accept. Wendy remains
apprehensive, and she worries about the original prognosis of less than a year of life
left for Chris. With four months already passed since that prognosis, her anxiety grows.
Additionally, Wendy evinces concern about what kind of life
Taylor will have. The three of them are a tight family, used to relying on one another,
for they are an unusually small family to begin with. Chris' parents are deceased,
Wendy is an only child, and Chris' brother has no children. Taylor is the last of
the Stoecklers, and now Chris and Wendy dare not try to have another child.
Because Chris job took him away from them four days
out of the week, time in Wisconsin would find him with his family -- eating meals, playing
board games, but most importantly, just being home with his family and friends. Now,
they are faced with losing all of that. They have turned to their faith to cope, but even
Wendy admits that does not always soften the blow of what has happened. Their family is
young, they had much to look forward to, and Wendy wonders why this has happened to them.
She states that it never leaves her mind. We will keep you posted on the progress of this
close-knit family as they hold out hope and look for a brighter day.
*** POSTED MAY 6, 2002 ***
An Update -- 6/16/03
From Wendy Stoeckler:
This is an update on Chris, this is what we had to go through on
Friday (6/13/03).
Arrived at Froedtert Hospital for weekly chemo, mind you he is still
in extreme pain. Palliative Care nurse came to see us in waiting room to check on him. We
explained the pain in the lower pelvic area and that he has been having trouble urinating.
She stated that she'd be right back. We went back in chemo room to start chemo and
Palliative nurse came back and asked us to move to a private room. There the Pain Dr., the
Palliative nurse, and our oncologists' nurse practitioner were in the room, but our
oncologist was not. We talked about the pain etc... the Pain Dr. found out an MRI was done
on June 7th of that area and called for the films, stat.
When he returned he asked that our daughter vacate the room
and told us the bad news, the meso has spread and was thickening, that is the bulge that
is in that area. It is between the rectum and bladder and that might be compressing on the
urinary tract system or worse, attached around the bladder, although they never stated
about the bladder, that I am assuming. Now I already knew some of this from my
conversation with the Radiation Dr. that called for the MRI, but at the time of our
conversation he had not yet reviewed the actual films, just read the report. Chemo has
been stopped, chest x-ray was ordered and urine sample ordered. He now takes Dilaudid,
Vicadin and was just put on a 12 hr morphine pill called MS Cotin. Now I did ask in front
of all these professionals, why is it that we kept complaining to our oncologist for
months about the pain in that area. Every visit to his office, our conversation with him
always revolved around that area. He never showed any concern. They stated they will talk
with him. My husband is furious as you can imagine. I remember at our last visit in March
with the doctor he stated there were some fluids still down in that area and did nothing
to find out more. The bulge was there at that time also.
Now if I would not have called the nurse practitioner a couple of
weeks ago and basically demand that he receive some pain management, which I found out
through another meso patient, taken Chris to see his Family Doctor, and then to see his
Surgeon regarding his pain and this bulge we thought was a hernia, we'd still be
unknowledgeable about all this. Our next appointment isn't until June 26th. This is what
we have been dealing with since the onset of problems in 1999. Sad isn't it. Doctors at
this point do not know what to do, they will be reviewing with all doctors involved with
Chris and touch base with us next week. So again we wait.
Take Care - Wendy
An Update --
12/20/04
From Wendy Stoeckler:
Well, it will be 3 years this December 31st since
Chris was diagnosed with Meso. We first want to thank all who have helped
and stood by us through these turbulent times.
Currently Chris is receiving no treatment. But not
for the lack of trying. None of the following treatments have been
effective for Chris. He first tried Alimta. The 1st round went well but
after the 2nd round he became very ill. He was bedridden 28 days out of
30. His CT scan, after 2 months, showed growth. Chris then participated in
a clinical study. Again, 1st round went well and after the 2nd round, due
to unknown circumstances to date, he ended up having emergency abdomen
surgery, enduring a long 7 days stay at the hospital and receiving a 10"
scar on his belly. Chris recovered slowly and then started another chemo
in pill form. After a couple of rounds of this pill the CT scan still
showed more growth. Also during this past year in half, Chris has
developed a orange size tumor coming out of his back on the lower right
side where the biopsies were performed over 3 years ago. We now know the
cancer has made its way out. So Chris has made the decision to take a
break. He is still on a lot of pain meds, he tires more easily, and
shortness of breath is becoming an issue. Just today Chris received a
blood transfusion. We are hoping this will help with the fatigue, that run
down feeling he has had for the last month.
At this point and time, Chris is spending a
lot of time with our daughter Taylor, who is now 11 years old. He
is enjoying all the homework, at age 42, of a 6th grader. We both seem to
have forgotten a lot, but are enjoying
re-learning everything.
Chris, Taylor and I want to wish everyone the best
and thanks to all who have been concerned about us. Your support is very
much appreciated.
Wendy
Christopher “Gopher”
John STOECKLER, age 44, of Fort Atkinson passed peacefully into Heaven on
Thursday, December 21, 2006, surrounded by family and friends after a
courageous battle with cancer.
Chris was born in Waukesha,
Wisconsin on April 11, 1962, the son of Fred and Jean (Sundalius) Stoeckler.
Chris graduated from Brookfield Central High School in 1980. On May 18,
1985, Chris married his soul mate, Wendy Marks in Brookfield, WI. Chris’
love of engines pursued him to attend WCTC and earn a degree in auto
mechanics. Chris was employed as a Field Service Mechanic with United
Airlines since 1987.
Chris had a heart of gold.
Chris was always there to help whenever someone was in need. His caring and
passionate heart always seemed to make us feel better and make our worries
go away. He cherished every moment he shared with his “pride and joy” his
daughter Taylor, with his wifeWendy and his many, many friends.
Surviving are his wife of 21
years, Wendy, his beloved daughter, Taylor both of, Fort Atkinson; his
brother John Stoeckler, of Helenville; dear uncle and aunt, Richard (June)
Stoeckler of Florida; his “adoptvie family” Betty Kutz, Dean (Linda) Kutz
and family; Ronald (Pam) Kutz; Andrew (Robin) Kutz and family; Aaron
(Melanie) Kutz; Allan Kutz; David (Donette) Kutz; Dennis (Sally) Kutz;
Sonya, John and Michael Kutz; Roger (Chris) Kutz and family; Nancy (Robert)
Benish and family; and many other relatives and friends.
Chris was preceded in death by
his parents; his in-laws Mathew and Patricia Marks; and his very special
friend Wesly Kutz..
Funeral Services will be held
Friday, December 29, 2006, at 11:00AM at St. Paul's Ev. Lutheran Church,
Fort Atkinson with Rev. Michael Duncan officiating. Burial will be in the
Evergreen Cemetery, located in Fort Atkinson, Wisconsin.
Friends may call from 4-8PM on
Thursday, December 28, 2006 at Nitardy Funeral Home, Fort Atkinson and after
10:00AM on Friday at the church until the services.
Those planning an expression
of sympathy may wish to consider memorials to the Mesothelioma Applied
Research Foundation (MARF
Organization), P.O. Box 91840, Santa Barbara, CA 93190-1840, which helps
eradicate the cancer Chris had or to the St. Paul’s Church Teen Center.
A special thank you to all who
gave Chris their friendship, love and support. From his many friends he made
throughout the United States while working for United Airlines and to all
his co-workers he treasured so much. To all at Froedtert Memorial Hospital
that have cared and supported Chris these past five years since his
diagnosis and a very special thank you to his “adoptive family” the Kutz’s.
You gave Chris so much to live for. He loved you all very much.
www.nitardyfuneralhome.com
Weep not for me, for I am at
peace. My struggle is over for I am with the Lord; When you miss me look to
the heavens and I shall smile at you through the twinkle of the stars. The
gentle rain drops, as it brushes against your cheek, shall carry my kiss.
The winds shall be my arms around you. Live for me on earth as I shall live
in heaven. No, weep not for me, for I am with the Lord.
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